Controlling Your Emotions

So, as you’ve noticed throughout the weeks of listening to my words while reading my blogs, YOU MATTER. It truly doesn’t matter what the topic is that particular week because you now understand that I’m stressing the importance of your feelings and how to achieve being the best YOU. This week I relied on the help of important people in my life to narrow down what subject to discuss and here we are: Controlling Your Emotions. ? ? ?

In week 6, we discussed the ideal that “Your Feelings are Valid”. If you haven’t read it yet, go back and read it when you have time. ⏰ I stressed the importance of living in your truth and embracing your emotions, no matter what. You are entitled to embody what you are feeling through all of the highs and lows. In fact, I wholeheartedly believe that this is how we attain victory ? over every situation in our life. Going within yourself and resonating with these emotions help us to properly process the ordeals, in order to land ?‍♀️ on the other side of them. Now that we have a refresher on this topic, I am sure you are questioning why I want to discuss controlling your emotions because that seems condescending, right?

Newton said that for every action, there is an equal and opposite reaction. If we believe that, we understand the importance of reactions to stimuli around us. External stimuli evoke emotion within us and force ? us to confront rational as well as irrational beliefs. ? We may not immediately identify what is considered irrational or rational, but the mandatory task of “going within” or exploring our inner beings will aid in deciphering what is what. If you feel passionately about anything, including but not limited to i.e., situations, actions, subject matters, people, ? ? ? ? experiences, there is a reason for it. You are justified in this reaction in that moment; however, it is your responsibility to discover why. Maybe you’ve already processed this specific matter because you regularly perform self-checkups and if that applies, you’re on the right path to controlling your emotions.

Self-control and controlling your emotions work synonymously when encountering these known matters which produce reactions from you. Once you’ve mastered self-control, your emotions will remain intact and you’re able to suppress the moment, if warranted, until you decide that you’re ready to process them. That sounds mature, huh? ? Yes, it is and typically applies for most adults ?, but we all know that adults are placed in compromising situations that they never would fathom. If you gain new self-knowledge in that moment based on your reaction, it is an astute indicator of the need for additional self-reflection.

Let’s reiterate: ? NEVER suppress your feelings. They MATTER. It’s vital to process them after you’ve discovered that you are emotionally impacted by the specific issue. There’s a time and place for everything, including a time to express certain emotions such as anger, ? hurt, ? , disappointment, joy ? , and so forth. Just understand that when you have self-control mastered, you will be able to decipher, if this is one of those times or not. In the event that you lose control in that moment, introspection assists with conquering this feat.

There’s no competition with anyone other than with yourself. Each day ☀️ that you are granted is a gift ? of being a better you than you were the day before. All of the time that you willingly and unwillingly devote to every entity, but yourself, apportions a disservice to you. In a nutshell, ? you are capable of tackling ? your emotions through processing and self-observation, but NEVER ? downplay ? what you are feeling. It is the essential ? key to learning who you truly are, in order to live in your truth and most importantly, continuing to be THE BEST YOU!

Sending ? and ?,

CJ

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41 thoughts on “Controlling Your Emotions”

  1. Stephanie P.

    Hi CJ,
    I love this! This works for me. I had to learn the hard way at times that my feelings matter and that even when I stifle them that they will still come through. I matter. Thanks CJ.

  4. Missy F.

    Yes ma’am! I’m trying to control my emotions when it’s time. It’s hard at times, but we can all mature to get there.

  6. Ronda S.

    Every week- it’s a learning lesson. I always feel empowered to get through the week from your posts. Thank you for your intellectual insight.

  9. Rebecca S.

    I always share this with my friends and. a few family members. I’m waiting on your book!

  10. Kim S.

    I reread this a few times and found myself taking notes in my journal. I’m really relating to this topic CJ.

  12. Karen M.

    I’m glad I set my reminder especially with everything that I am dealing with my family. I question myself and this will help me to try to balance out my feelings and to get them to see me and why I feel like I do.

  13. AhelaniP

    Yes CJ, yes. I enjoyed this and cannot wait to have this discussion this week in my virtual girls club meeting. The topics are always on point because of you. This should be real good! Thank you! ?

  14. Mike W.

    CJ,
    I’ve finally caught up on all of your blogs and happy so that I can follow your order. This is a good one here too. I like them all and enjoy reading ways to help improve my life.

    1. cjmadry Post author

      You’re appreciated. Thank you for reading my blogs and glad you’re receiving something pertinent from them. CJ

  15. Kim S.

    I like this and always strive for the balance of when to know what to do and what not to do. I guess it will take work(self work).

  18. Shaun

    I like how you broke this down and show that even if it may not be the time to show emotions, they are important. As a man, we’re judged for either showing too many emotions or having no self control. There’s a balance and I get that. I also welcome it.

    1. cjmadry Post author

      Hi Shaun,

      You spoke a mouthful. Men in society are typically seen as emotionless or somewhat barbaric, and it’s unfair, since we’re all emotional beings in some sense. A healthy balance is needed, for sure. Thank you for your thoughts. CJ

  19. Pastrylady48

    Hey CJ!

    Learning when to express my feelings or not is priceless. I know that they matter. Thank you so much.

  20. Aja

    …to discern, “self control vs “controlling your emotions” you must know which is which. BIGGGG difference!!!… Way to go CJ?

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